I once read a post saying a good measure for your enjoyment / time spent with people is that you forget to take photos. You forget the cyberspace and are content living in the moment.Recently I hosted a party for a large group of people and there were only a couple of photos taken that evening. It is a rare and precious thing in this day and age to only have memories encased in our minds and not with physical photographs. Somehow, a collection of that moment will feel infinitely warmer than just looking at a photograph on screen.
Photographs are a glass door to your past, but your experiences are the golden key to opening that door. A big reason of why many of our printed photos although materialistically light carry a heavy, emotional weight because it’s the memories that arise from the little snapshot in time. Simple philosophy: The less you have, the more you treasure it – apply it to memories, photographs and even perhaps the time on your phone!
In our culture there is an innate requirement to capture everything; no doubt influenced by the popularity of daily vlogging and the mentality of “If you don’t capture it, did it really happen?” And it’s not necessarily a negative thing, no – I love looking back at old scrapbooks and polaroids of times long ago.
But we should learn to experience the moment of what is, lest we forget the past of what was.
Putting your phone down permits you to simply be present and allows you to engage in conversation, perhaps sometimes debate that could potentially alter your unique perspective of the world. It is truly a shame to go through an event having only looked through a screen or at a screen.
Alternatively, the “enjoyment level” can be seen not just for yourself but you can view it very clearly in other people. If one is staring at their phone the whole time, another will deduce fairly logically that they are not having a good time. When I’m engaged in conversation within a group, and one sole member is on their phone, it saddens me perhaps, that their thoughts and ideas on a subject will never be revealed (in real time) because they are on their phone rather than chatting with us. Additionally, it puts a dampener on the dynamics of the group too, as the one person has made a conscious decision to interact with the phone instead of us.
Don’t get me wrong, I do love my phone and appreciate the luxury of information and connections at my fingertips. However I choose to put my phone down in social situations in the belief that anything that happens in the digital space can wait, after my concert, after my dinner, after my shopping trip or in general spending time with those who matter. Rarely, and truthfully, anything that happens online relation to the universe is, unimportant. ( Unless of course, it is my mother asking what time I’m going to be home.)
I hope that today I have inspired you to put down your phone more and look around, and see the world you live in. Our time on Earth is so limited, and cannot be spent staring into the screen as our lives and opportunities whittle away, chip by chip.